With every news story of the tragic results of bullying, your heart likely stops and you think first of your child, and then of the hell the parents are enduring. Every bullying episode does not end in tragedy, but such incidents leave emotional scars on a child, ones that undermine his or her confidence and natural maturation of social skills. A harsh reality of today’s youth is that being tormented during school hours doesn’t stop there, but follows them into their homes on their phones and iPads. There is no place they can feel safe.
How well do you know your child? Could they be afraid of how you’ll react and how that reaction will make matters worse? Would your child tell you if they’re being bullied?
Child psychotherapist Karen Goldberg says, “Around half of the children who are bullied don’t end up telling an adult that it’s happening.”
In a child’s mind, the negativity can become a consuming reality and cause them to play sick to miss school or result in inattentiveness to their studies.
Peter J. Goodman, author of We’re All Different But We’re All Kitty Cats cites some common reasons for children to refrain from sharing these daytime nightmares with their parents. When you view these from a child’s perspective the feelings can seem overwhelming:
The manifestation can vary from child to child depending on their unique personality, but:
Talking to your child and making them aware is one thing, but as parents, we need to take the extra step and watch out for the changes. October is National Bullying Prevention Month – join us in taking a stand against this destructive behavior. To learn more, consider a free trial in our bullying prevention program.